Your divorce may be one of the most difficult times of your life, and it is natural to feel upset and stressed. No matter how overwhelmed you feel, you should avoid the following three behaviors for the sake of yourself and your children.
Abusing drugs or alcohol
During this incredibly stressful time, using alcohol or drugs can seem like a way to escape from the pressures of your situation. However, this behavior can lead to a dangerous pattern of abusing these chemicals instead of facing your problems. Alcohol and drugs can affect your mental and physical health, your job performance, and maybe even the court’s opinion of your fitness to have custody of your children. Don’t fall into these unhealthy habits—instead, seek therapy and discover healthier ways to cope.
Taking your feelings out on your children
You may feel on edge or more easily angered during your divorce, and that is understandable. It is important, however, that you don’t take these feelings out on your children, who are no doubt experiencing their own difficult emotions. If you find yourself yelling at your children or saying hurtful things, take a short break to pull yourself together. Don’t be afraid to ask friends and family members to babysit your kids for an afternoon so that you can take time for yourself. Above all, do not speak poorly of your ex to your children, as this can only make them feel conflicted.
If you and your ex are in the middle of a contentious divorce, you are no doubt experiencing feelings of anger and resentment that you want to act on. However, taking vindictive action like destroying property or spreading rumors about your ex does nothing for your emotional health. Instead, do your best to stay positive and act reasonably, even if you feel that your ex is not.
To make the divorce process easier, hire an attorney who can represent you and make sure that you get the settlement you deserve. In the Indianapolis area, count on Ruppert & Schaefer, P.C. for divorce representation. To schedule a consultation, call (317) 580-9295.